ORIGINAL: fizzwater2
I believe he's talking about the much older Futaba servo connectors with the pale pins protruding from the body.
Newer (current) ones actually have female connectors inside the housing, even though they call it a male - they're referring to the plastic body.
You can't trim a tab and shave corners to make those old ones work - cut 'em off and put new connectors on is probably the best way.
I'm actually kind of embarrassed now. I read through the whole thread except for the first post. You're absolutely right....cutting and soldering is the best way to do it, I think.
My bad, comment retracted!