I think spad to the bone
http://www.spadtothebone.com/ has some nice trainer plans. As for all the other stuff, look aournd.
www.horizonhobby.com has stuff. If you want an ARF or something, go with the GWS Slow Stick at the aforementioned horizon hobby site. There is a kit too, if you search GWS02 that has a radio and everything else you need but is a Pico Stick FD, and I'm not sure how those compare to the Slow Stick since i haven't got one(yet). Look around, ask questions, and don't get discouraged. (like i used to be) Most of all, have fun.
Al