How many guys really don't know how to turn on a vacuum cleaner, washing machine, or crock pot and yet they never do? It's simply they choose not to! Read a few pages and look at the illustrations and honestly, who could be perplexed? http://manuals.hobbico.com/gpm/gpma0968-manual.pdf
Anyone can read this manual from Tower and get all the terminology down by the illustrations showing what a trailing edge is.
It's NOT hard unless they can't read or use Google. If they're still perplexed, Tower even gives you an R/C dictionary http://towerhobbies.com/intros/introdictionary.html
and even more basic, a beginner section http://www.easyrc.com/airplanes/index.html
If you're still stuck, post a question this forum and I bet you get a good answer (followed by 6+ pages of off topic comments.)
I usually toss the hardware that comes with kits and ARFs because it's junk metal.
Kits allow me to select the proper amount of glue to use in critical parts, and with an ARF, I ALWAYS add more glue, including World Models. It's one of the worst ARFs on the market in my opinion. How long does an ARF last you, a season, two seasons? Kits tend to last a lot longer as glue is not used as sparingly, and no quota is set for when it's completed and out the door like the ARF business.
Kits you can individualize and the "hobby" is just that. Flying is the secondary part for many builders.
It's a myth Kit building requires predetermined skills. We all started with little to none, you just pick it up as you go along. I wouldn't suggest a Dave Platt model for the first go, I still shudder to think I would want one now (I have my limits too), but there are basic kits, new and old, available on any marketplace dedicated to RC.
Today illustrated manuals as shown above make it MUCH easier for anyone to get into it, especially using the resources of this forum and tap the experience we never had before internet was invented, by the infamous Al Gore.