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Wife - 7/10/2002 10:29:18 AM   
GrnBrt



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Status: offline 		Well it took me a couple of tries to find a Wife that doesn't care if I am in this hobby, in fact she encourages it. I had to retire way early on a disability which leaves the days to myself while she is at work so that's when I build and fly. It wasn't fair to her to have me in the shop in the evenings so we worked out the following solution and it works great. The evenings are hers and we spend the weekends together. If there is a special fly event on the weekends then no problem. She helps me with all my color schemes as she is great at it and personally, well I $uck at it. She is my biggest fan and gets upset if I don't spend the time in the shop or go flying during the week. If you allow this hobby to consume all your time and neglect your other 1/2 then it's time to take a hard look at what you are doing and change, just ain't worth losing a good mate over this madness that we have. My 2 cents worth.


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Wife - 7/10/2002 10:36:39 PM   
Jafrh



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From: Debary, FL, USA
Status: offline 		You got to remember this is only a hobby, not a vocation. and if

you don't find time to spend with the Mrs. she's going to find a

hobby of her own.

One that wears pants!!!!!!!!

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Wife - 7/10/2002 11:49:34 PM   
Luizinho



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Status: offline 		Of course Jafrh. I work from 8:00 AM o 6:00 PM them I stay with my Daughter and wife in Home, do my thinks in my house and then in my free time I would like to spend one or two hours in the shop. I spend in the shop 2 days a week and 2 hours a week in the field. Is that a Vocation ? or I am wrong ?. Should I spend less time ?, like one hour a week in the shop and one day of the week in the field ? Like I said, before of this hobby I spend more time playing tennis out side of my house, now that I am in home where "she likes me to be in" I have more problems. I donīt understand. I am married for 11 years. How many hours you people spend in this hobby a week ?

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Wife - 7/11/2002 12:25:22 AM   
Nuker



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From: Whitby, ON, CANADA
Status: offline 		Are there really too many hours?

Time, for me, like everyone else, is limited. My wife has her "wings" and flies and we even don't always go to the field at the same time. My daughter goes on a buddy box from time to time but comes to the field to meet her friends. I sleep 3-4 hours a night so I have time to build, work on the computer, etc once everyone is in bed.

Art had it best though. If it ever came to deciding between my family and the hobby; there would be a massive sale in the "swap shop". It's too easy to get "possessed" by this hobby so make sure you set your priorities. What starts as 3 hours a week can grow quickly.

When you find that every waking moment is spent trying to get to the field, it's time for a vacation from flying; you'd be amazed how different you'll see the hobby with a different perspective.
(now guys, this isn't heresy)

Because it's something my wife and I can do together, I consider myself very lucky.

As for Tattoo, I built her a combat plane but she's not comfortable in combat..... yet. At our Tuesday evening combats, she spectates; for now anyway

Nuker

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The situation - 7/11/2002 9:59:24 PM   
hoveralot


 

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From: Caracas, VENEZUELA
Status: offline 		Just aks her about what she prefers, a two wings airplane or a two legged airplane.

I donīt have this problem, before we get married i told her that i spend a lot of time in this hobby but we also make and arrengement about weekends, saturday is mine and sundays for her and it worked for me. Also i ask her about monokote colors, schemes and once i bought her a used airplane because she wanted to learned how to fly but after a while she change her mind (women?? noooo) and now i have one more airplane in the hangar.
There is a lot of good options here.


Iīm from Venezuela, do you have a email group??? I will like to share experiences with latinamerican people too because my english is not good at all.

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Wife - 7/11/2002 11:22:37 PM   
PaulSwany



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From: Bartlett, TN, USA
Status: offline 		[QUOTE]Originally posted by gpmikemorse
The first rule of a marriage should be that each partner wants the other to be happy. Tell her this is what makes you happy. Ask her how you can enjoy your hobby without making *her* unhappy. Then work out a compromise. Try not to have the same argument over and over. Instead of fighting each time you go flying, arrange what is a reasonable number of hours per week. Invest in your marriage. Build up the "bank account". Maybe you need to take her to dinner once a week. Learn what gives her pleasure, and do it frequently. [/QUOTE]

Great advice Mike..... My only problem is I can't pry out of my wife what give her pleasure.... Seems like the only thing she enjoys is watching TV.... I can stand about 20 minutes of that before I gag..... I'm still searching for something she enjoys..... Mostly she just want's my company. I did get her to help me with a color scheme or two... It was fun getting her involved...

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WIFE - 7/12/2002 7:25:29 AM   
beep


 

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From: Wilton, CA, USA
Status: offline 		It's simple, get her involved in quilting then buy her a $5500.00 VIKING sewing machine that does embroidery, she's enjoying this so much now that i'm cooking-cleaning even to the point i'm washing her car. But i can't complain since i've been on RCU I'VE SPENT WELL OVER AT LEAST 20 TIMES WHAT I SOLD AND SHE DOESN'T CARE. GOOD LUCK beep

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Give and take - 7/12/2002 7:25:46 AM   
Saito_56-RCU



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From: Jacksonville Florida
Status: offline 		OK, I am lucky to work 3pm to 11pm. My wife doesn't work. I fly Monday morning till noon, come home, take the wife out to lunch. I am off on Tues. and Weds, Tuesday is work around the house , and shop with the wife. Weds? You got it, that is my flying day, as long as I like, then I normally cook dinner on the grill..Every one is happy, until the UPS man shows up unannounced!!!! :


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Wife - 7/12/2002 9:10:33 AM   
bgi



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Status: offline 		Hey, it's not the UPS man, it's the "Brown Airplane Truck"


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Wife - 7/12/2002 7:50:48 PM   
Luizinho



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From: Miami, FL, USA
Status: offline 		The problem is that the woman does not like to see a mam happy by his self. The men have to be happy "only" with her. But I Am working to get her involved, is not easy.

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Wife - 7/12/2002 8:02:26 PM   
MinnFlyer



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Status: offline 		Ok then, how about this...

You tell her that flying these damned things is really a pain in the a$$, But you have to do it because she makes you feel so wonderful, that you need a little misery in your life

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Wife - 7/13/2002 6:16:06 AM   
Jax RC-RCU


 

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From: Jacksonville, FL, USA
Status: offline 		MinnFlier has great advice. Also the advice about her getting a hobby is great. They way I do it is to fly only once a week on Sunday morning. This is my time and she respects that. I devote Saturday to chores around the house, and during week night hours, while she is watching her TV programs, I'm in the shed building kits. I take her out to dinner twice a week and help cook the other nights. Show your wife lots of love and support, and unless she is totally selfish, she will leave you alone during your personal time.

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Wife - 7/13/2002 11:03:00 PM   
DLT


 

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From: Foley, AL, USA
Status: offline 		My wife came to me the other day and ask if I would quit spending so much money on planes, ect. that we needed money to repair the house and car.....I simply told her "no" and that she needed to get her priorities straight!!! If they still insist about the only thing you can do is kick over her vanity table on your way OUT!!.......just kidding about all this of course.

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The Wifey..... - 8/17/2002 9:47:50 AM   
TRETRE


 

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Status: offline 		I'm sorry to hear your problems....all of your problems...My wife HELPED me build my new plane and she insists on being there for all my flights.....I dont understand why...but she does...she likes to see me excel at everything.....I found a woman who accepts me for what I am and what I like to do.......and she enjoys seeing me happy.....and when she sees that I'm happy I want to make her happy so I love her more....what all women want....MAKE time for your woman too! If you dont someone else will!

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Wife - 8/19/2002 1:02:34 AM   
Mediaman