You're contradicting yourself.

In all my years of flying and instructing I have heard of three methods of learning how to control and airplane that's coming toward you. I teach all three because what works for some people doesn't work for others and vice versa.

Two of these methods have already been mentioned:

1 - Point the stick at the low wing

2 - Turn your back to the plane and look over your shoulder

These two are by far the most popular. When I learned to fly (Yes, we had airplanes back then) I used method 2, but to each his own.

A third method I have heard some people using is that they imagine themselves in the cockpit. I can't do this - in fact, most people can't do this, but for those who can, it works well, so I feel it's worth mentioning.

But strongly consider the other two and use whichever one works best for you