Okay bdavision and dditch, here's my order list! I'm orderingparts recommended by both of you. In some cases, I opted for slightlybetter than base, but mainly I selected items that I could get from xheli. I'm trying not to pay multiple shipping charges. I have the Spektrum DX6i, for which I will have to order the receiver elsewhere.
I also have the batteries.

3 EXI 450 Plastic kits.............................89.10
1 Alpha 400 Brushless motor.............15.00
1 Volcano/Proton 30A ESC..................14.70
1 Detrum Gy48v Gyro...........................12.75
3 EXI digital 9g servos..........................23.10
1 Raiden DS-16 Tail Servo..................24.95
1 AC6 Balance Charger.......................54.95
1 EXI tool kit............................................35. 00
1 Lipo Meter............................................. .3.26
1 EXI Swash Plate Leveler.....................4.70

By ordering (3) 450 kits, i feel like I should be covered for a couple of crashes, but if you think I should stock up a ball links or something.......or anything I left off , please let me know.

Thanks for all the advise, it made the whole process much easier!

blufrog