RE: 1st Plane: Electric Trainer. THESE, or....
Hobbyzone sells the super cub as a BNF. Get a Spectrum DX6i and you're all set. It even has that ACT thing that recovers the plane for you if you get into an attitude that you don't know how to get out of. I'd still suggest spending some time at a club to learn with much less stress and probably less expense, but if you insist on going it alone then the BNF super cub is viable.