well the problem was that another customer of our hoster had a attack thru a bad setup oscommerce.
they planted some backdoor executables , the guy who hacked it is a known hacker.
he takes databases in hostage and tries to sell them back to you.
the guy was smart and rerouted all emails all trafic out. destroyed ssl certificates links
in this case they guy managed to break in twice on different days , and screwed up most of the data.
another problem was we own also a ssl licence , this license is coupled to our webshop.
so you can imagine you have to go thru the whole shop and check for things that wont work.
at some point you could just look at all stuff in the shop , but order nothing.
i coulndt even login anymore as a administrator.
and tried to recover all orders , that where partial send or paid but not send.
worst part of all was our exchange server that went down , so i could not see who had ordered what and when.
i was "digital blind" and you can see you can destroy a business just by cutting the data!
a good friend of mine came down last night with a brand new server including exchange 2007 (wich now i am happy to use it also thru my mac ;-) )
and slowly i recovered all mails ( 8.2 gb of emails!) luckely i use another server where we keep backups of archives.
thanks to exchange.
problem then is re importing all emails and orders you can imagine importing 8gb of email traffic back to the exchange server.
nightmare...
but its all back and working now toulk 5 days to get back and complete some orders.

funny or not since i sync my iphone also with exchange , at some point it deleted all my contacts , calendars , emails of my iphone since they are all linked.