Exactly. This thread is remarkable. Wake up. We are all in the hobby. If you can't enjoy the people that share your interests, how to do you get by with people you have less in common with? You didn't learn to fly on an advanced plane, you learned to fly a trainer. Starting with an ARF is fine, fewer quit that way. But no one should judge a scratch or kit builder if you have never done it yourself. It's fine if you want to stay with ARFs, it's your choice. If you feel compelled to insult another just because they do enjoy kit building (grow balsa trees, mine ore, horse=glue, labeling them snobs...), maybe you're taking life's frustrations out on your keyboard.
Maybe instead, you can objectively create a Pro/Con list. Builders aren't fools. It's not all about getting in the air the fastest.

I remember when I started in a trainer, some pattern guy was flying his Webra powered pattern plane far beyond my flying capabilities. We were alone. I was refueling and bumped my elevator, breaking the clevis off, ending my flying day. The pattern guy saw me packing it in after one flight and maybe thought it was odd, so he came over and introduced himself. In a minute he was digging up a spare clevis he brought in his flight box, installed it for me and allowed me to get another hour of flying time in while he was in the air with me. He also checked my CG and added more tail weight. I really started to like that plane after that! He scratch built his pattern plane, could fly 100 times better than I could, and shared his airspace with me, he was the farthest thing from a snob.

Dave Platt lives only 1/2 mile down the road. I've been to his house watching his Jaguars sit in the driveway and his Spitfire build occupied his garage. He's got a nice display case of diesel engines he made himself. It's great to talk to him owning some of his manufactured kits over the years. He's not a snob either.