RE: whats the best beginner traner kit to buy?
All great suggestions but let me add my $.02 or two pence in your case! Pick a plane and start building it and in the meantime get yourself the ultimate "trainer" which is not even an airplane! It is a simulator! I have many friends who actually solo'd their first time to the field after a few months on a simulator at home. I have both the Great Planes RealFlight 4.5 and the Aerofly pro package and both work well.