Politely tell your instructor to take a hike.

It's hard to learn new things to learn new things. That being said, starting slow then working your way up will always be the best option.
My dad recently started flying and he spent at least 3 months on a simulator before he even attempted to fly. The first time he went to the field he buddy boxed with an instructor and, honestly he didn't need the instructor. His takeoff was decent and his landing was perfect. And everything in between was smooth and coordinated.

But since it doesnt seem like you've spent much time on a sim you really need to practice slow flying. You gotta have the basics down before you start rippin through the sky.