RE: When does the nevousness stop?
I've had days where I've spooked myself good. Not always sure why - but some days I can just tell I'm not on my game. Seems to be with the hotter or squirrelier models, but not always so. What works for me is a short first flight and then, by the time the model is refuled and checked over I'm usually calmed down.
Certainly when you're first starting out you're entitled to be a ball of nerves. It will pass. The good news is that the times I have dorked a plane it's usually not the day I'm cautious. It's the day I'm feeling hot or just being careless.