Me again.
Found a solution to the problem that might not be the only or even the correct solution but its working good so far.
My solution:

My solution was to use pmix 6.
Master - aux2
Slave - Elev
Link - on
Percentages are:
full up - 40%
half up - 20%
Center - 0%
half down - 20%
full down - 40%
Same switch as full span ailerons - Switch H
down - on
so that when I flip the switch to activate full span ailerons, the flap->elev mix is off. Turn the full span ailerons off and the flap elevator mix is back on.
I will have to play with those percentages but its looking good so far!
The flap/elevator mix operates in both directions which may or may not be a good thing.
Cant wait to hit the field again and try the new settings.
Maiden flight was this morning and I love this plane already!