RE: How to handle the guys with flawed plans?
Six some years ago, I was one of those guys to some degree. I even met with a very experience flyer who's frustration with me led to him stating something to the effect, 'Do what you want. It's your plane anyway.' I too was self taught with the aid of a simulator. I started with a Nexstar, not an F-16 though. I made mistakes and I paid for them, financially. It was an expensive way to learn the hobby and others would likely have given up. I now fly smal 100+ mph electrics, War Birds and 50cc 3D gassers. Oh, and that guy that got so frustrated with me... He's a very good freind of mine still today even though he has quit the hobby himself.
Point being... Be yourself and those that you "turn off" will be forgotten moment of your past. Those that stick it out and accept your style will become integral parts of your life and/or memories.