We have a gentleman at the field who has crashed 4 large scale birds in the last month. He has no clue why they crashed or he is in total denial. They were all his fault but he blames design, construction and distractions for his crashes but they were all his fault. I think he is hopeless and nobody bothers to help him anymore because he is so full of bull.

You on the other hand are admitting that you are responsible for your planes and that is a very good sign. Funtanas and lasers are very good planes but they can be quite a handfull. The Laser for example sounds like it power stalled from to much elevator and I'd bet the pull-pull separated when it hit the ground.

I recommend stepping back to an aerobatic trainer such as the World Models T-34 that is very stable, has a wide performance envelope and will allow you to build skills while getting your confidence back.

Practice precision aerobatics such as the IMAC basic pattern so you don't have the indecision of just punching holes in the sky and also practice using your left hand(rudder and throttle) because that makes you a better pilot than simulator style flying that only requires the right hand. Also practice side slipping and and flat turns that require coordinating both hands and pulling back the throttle on your down lines so as not to destroy those larger birds that are waiting to fly.

The best pilots at our field still fly trainers sometimes to get back to basics and the people that jump to advanced planes to soon end up getting discouraged and finding another hobby.