Where do you live? Oh Republic of California, that explains a lot.
that club sucks and it is in no way a reflection of all the other clubs in the USA.
we, for the most part are helpful people, we want you to succeed and grow.
Im 54 now but learn only 4 yrs ago, it's true that kids learn faster than us but it can be done.
Find a smaller club with a training program, if your budget permits there is a flying school, I think in Arizona that will make you fly solo in 1 week.
Welcome and don't let those bozos intimidate you