i'll offer myself as an example for ya.
i'm young (30) and i've allways sucked at video games, that hellfire thingy here on rcu has me totally baffled and rc sims also have me defeated. when i used to go out with friends they'd all play those video games and i'd be on a pinball machine or playing air-hockey.
i've been flying c/l since age 5 and r/c since age 14 and my only "instructor" was my dad who did the driving and hand launching. my very first r/c flight was a success even with the deadstick landing.
i'm a very good bmx rider on a halfpipe, not matt hoffman, but good. this takes major coordination.
in my army service i was an anti-aircraft gunner in an m-163 vulcan, where you basically follow a plane in the gunsite using a joystick. while shooting live rounds at a drone i was excellent but i allways had a low score on the simulator. same with the stinger, i could allways score a "hit" when following a real plane but allways messed up with the sim.

i think that my problem with video games and simulators is the lack of feedback you get in the real world. something about seeing images on a screen just doesn't do it for me.

dave