One more "ditto" to what both CB and RS said. Do ARFs while learning to fly, and learn to build kits later. Both the Tower Hobby trainer and the Hobbico Superstar are good picks. Either will fly well with a low cost O.S. 46 LA or if your wallet allows the O.S. 46 AX will "nicely overpower them". For what it's worth, I have had both the Realflight and Phoenix sims, and liked the Realflight more. Enjoy!