Your Microsoft cockpit time hasn't simulated a thing we do flying a model. There are a number of RC simulations that have helped beginners. And one significant detail of them is they either come with a simulated TX or have a way to hook up one.

In fact, flaps on models is quite common nowadays, as are retracts and such.

However, finding a decent trainer with flaps isn't a good bet as most trainers are mfg'd to an entry level price point. And foam has helped move that price point even lower, although that really isn't really very beneficial if you'd really like to FLY a model airplane.