A bit of wisdom I was once told is that funerals are for the living. They allow us the opportunity to say good-bye, comfort one another and move on. Coming from a large extended family in rural Oklahoma funerals were often like family reunions less one person. Except for that one uncle, he didn't even have any pall bearers. I don't begrudge Donnyman his feelings about funerals. That would have been a life altering experience for me as well. I'm just acknowledging that funerals are a helpful step to moving on. Even mass war graves serve the purpose of reminding us of the sacrifices required before embarking on the next war.