formation
The flyover formation is a vee with #2 off the left wing of #1 - #3 and #4 are off the right wing of #1 with #3 closest to the leader. When the formation flys over the ceremony #3 pulls straight up, and if the aircraft is capable, out of sight. The balance of the formation continues straight ahead, with the #3 spot left open.
I probably won't get the honor of the "Missing Man", but have instructed my survivors to break my wings in half and put them in my coffin. This tradition is much older than the "Missing Man" and just as honorable.