The simulator is easier to land with. In some ways the real thing is better because your vision isnt limited to a computer screen.
For the most part it is much easier to land with the simulator. Plus you dont have the anxiety of crashing on the sim, you can crash all you want and fly again 2 seconds later. When it is for real you must account for the "pucker factor". Simulators are great tools and will help you solo faster and reduce your learning curve.

Sounds like you have just started using your sim. Practice, practice, practice!!!!!! It will get easier to land, trust me.