I just read all the posts, and I think I'll throw this in.

I train people who ask me. I accept the responsibility to get them to the point where they can fly safely, with a plane that will last beyond the training period.

I don't think I ask too much when I ask them to adhere to a schedule, for my convenience. After all, they asked me.

I think I'm obligated to help them learn to put the plane where they want it, without violating the airspace over the pilots or the neighbors. I also think I'm obligated to help them learn to recover the plane from attitudes other than upright, like stalls and inverted.

I give students feedback. When they can put the plane where they want it consistently, and can induce a stall (and recover from it) and maybe do a couple maneuvers, I start looking more like an ornament than an instructor. So I stick my hand in my pocket, and if I don't have to pull it out to make a save for two or three flights.... I show them, and tell them that my presence has become ornamental. Then I pull the buddy cord, and hand them the transmitter. I usually stand there for a flight or two, but by then they have the confidence to proceed alone.

If they don't ask for training, I can't help much. I hope they ask.

Good luck,
Dave Olson