RE: How do you hold the control sticks?
The Prescott gentleman gave you good advice. There are directions your thumb doesn't want to move in smoothly.....like full up and full right aileron for example.
I use this method exactly on the right stick, but thumb on top on the rudder/throttle stick, which requires a little less finesse.
I taught pattern flying for about seven years, and I told my guys "if you can write your name with your thumb only, then you can fly with it!"
Clair