I just joined a club this spring. It is relaxed and safe. It is not like a college fraternity where you have to be hazed, tormented, and prove yourself before you can be accepted.
I am sure someone would say something if I was being unsafe. But there is no "check list" that has to be approved by one of the "great ones" before I am worthy. lol
I would rather not fly at all if a club is going to treat you like a 2 year old.