RE: Advice from those of you who know?
There is not one corner of the continental US that you cannot find good help and for free with a little research.
Yes you can learn and even succeed on occassion by yourself depending upon your motivation. However at what cost? And there is only one answer many broken aircraft. Thats a fact nobody can escape. Your total costs to reach any given level of proficiency will exceed the costs of using a mentor/trainer at least 10 fold.
Its sad as you obviously have no intention of doing other than you have posted anyway by I have replied because perhaps it will help folks who may heed good advice and realize their dreams.
John[8D]