RE: When does the shakes finally go away?
May I suggest having an instructor or more experienced pilot "spot" for you for the first little while...sometimes just having a friendly voice in your ear reminding you to watch out for the powerline(pick your local hazard!) helps a lot! I've been getting the shakes for 4 years now...not as much now, but I still get 'em on a maiden flight and still get an experienced pilot to stand beside me when I go up for the first time with a new plane.