RE: need help to find a good first time plane
I have trained a lot of folks, and I like the Hobbyzone Challenger. Flys good, and offers pro mode when you get better. You can also buy modules for combat and dropping stuff like chutes. I reco getting someone to help with your first three flights. If not, fly a nice square pattern like the outline of a football field. Climb at full throttle to 100 ft after hand launch. Fly 8 mins at half throttle, then drop in for a gliding landing. Then do your square in the opposite direction. After a few flights, you'll be a pro.
The biggest reason for crashes has been flying in wind, and the control reversal when flying toward you. Practice on a sim like FMS is recommended. Don't fly if the wind is more than 5 mph until you get better.
Good luck.