Congratulations! Unfortunately you are by far in the minority.

My son used a sim and soloed after about 10 flights. I was impressed how fast he picked it up. I attribute his use of a sim and the hand and eye coordination of a teenager to his success

By all means use a sim but when it comes time to actually fly RC please join the AMA, find a club and join, and get an instructor.

It will make your RC experience MUCH more pleasurable.