RE: Stab and elevator size... need help!
Usually, a horizontal tail surface would have an aspect ratio of about 4:1 to 6:1 (chord is 1/4 or 1/6 of total span). Do what also looks good while the surface is in that range.
Please remember that airplanes (of any type) are collections of compromises. You design within "known-good" parameters, build it and then fly it and change as necessary.