BC, as a newcomer myself I have researched and read and feel your pain. Here's what I would do if I had to do it all over again based on the info you provided. Get an ARF trainer (or kit) with a TT pro 46, a 4 channel TX, and an instructor. I think an excellent sport trainer is fine for an adult, but I think kids will do better with an easy flying, forgiving trainer. ARF's are convienent and fast, but I would get a kit soon either way. I'm a best bang for the buck kinda guy which is why I recommended the TT Pro 46. I think it's just that. If it's compatible with your instructor, the Futaba 4 channel skysport is a good value. Upgrade to computer later, or the Hitech Flash 5X is the best bang for the buck entry level computer TX. My guess is if you are frugal AND get quality for your dollar you will spend $400-$500 (american) getting started (in the air). And for your kids and wifes' sake, DO IT! You could spend more or less, but those are realistic numbers. Cheers