And I DON'T think MOST clubs are run poorly, with nasty "rules" and such. It has been my experience that the vast, overwhelming majority of clubs are run very well in a very low key fashion...it's the nasty ones that get all the attention. "Everything Fine In Mudville Today" is not news, nobody posts about that. They post about PROBLEMS.
Hey, if you have been to three different clubs, and found them all problematic, have you considered the problem might be YOU?