Thanks for the tips boys, don't worry I wasn't trying to overighten it or anything, it was just that the allens are not as good a fit as they are supposed to be.

I bought the Team Associated hex drivers...expensive, but wow, it was like it hadn't been stripped at all, and it came right out first try... lucky... It's amazing what a difference using the correct tool makes... thanks again folks, emergency over, and I am now more tolerant of hex hardware...