wow I'm sorry you had a rough go of it at the local clubs. Perhaps you caught the guys at a bad moment. i've heard the same thing about my club a few times. and i can't imagine anyone not feeling welcome where i fly.
I We always try and go out of our way to talk to visitors. Try again, go and watch and get to know the folks first. ask questions those guys are going to be good friends i promise.
Learn to fly, have a ball its really more than a hobby.
I'm tellin you if i don't get to fly after a week or so my thumbs begin to ache. i'm going to fly today with one of my former students. i haven't flown in 2 weeks cause of the weather and due to a death in the family, im as excited as a little kid.
good luck emial me if you wish. too bad your not in virginia i'd take you on as a student