Erm.. using RealFlight, from my point of view, the simulator feels like the real thing, but the real thing does not feel like the simulator. I hope that makes sense. Maybe it's the adrenaline.
It think it helps. Especially when in situations where you're fumble-fingered, or learning to use the rudder better. You can practice things you would have to think about until they come naturally without digging holes in your flying field. It's done a lot for my rolling circles here in the freezing off-season. I've found it a little easier to concentrate on what I'm doing with the sticks because I can relax more. I also crash a lot more with it, because I can.
I'd buy it again.
Regards