Have you considered getting a plane with a higher wing loading ? Something in the mid to high twenties will be able to handle wind better than trainers (or the majority of ARFS out there ).

The higher wingloading means the plane has better wind penetration, but also means faster takoff/landing speeds.

In the mean time jack the wind up, have it changing direction and increase the gusts in your sim (I know Realflight will let you do this ). Practice on the sim, then have a stiff shot to calm the nerves and go fly. The worst you can do is get some repair time in.