RE: first plane
If you are intent on 'teaching yourself' to fly RC airplanes, there are a few things you must consider. There are many options, but most of them are more TOY than they are airplane. If you want to get into airplanes, like the dandy, (which looks a lot like a trainer), then you NEED an instructor.
You can try to learn without an instructor if you wish. Heres how.
1) Select a good beginner electric airplane. A trainer, if possible. (Something with 4 channels. Ailerons are a must, IMHO).
2) Buy 3 of them. By the time you are finished crashing, you will have enough parts to fly a whole airplane. (Sounds like I'm kidding, doesn't it?...but I'm not).
3) Get a good RC flight simulator and practice flying on the computer. It's cheaper than crashing.
4) Just keep the wings level as much as possible and you should get the hang of it in time.
5) Crashes will be inevitable without an instructor, so plan on spending a lot of time repairing and re-building.
I'm not trying to be a wise guy. You WILL crash without some help, and you will need more than one airplane. Flying RC is a blast. I hope you don't get discouraged before it becomes great fun for you.
Good Luck,
Mark