Well, I'm a nit-picker when it comes to weight. I don't consider myself to be a fanatic about it as I usually won't replace a kit part unless it's way too heavy. But lighter planes fly better. They respond faster to controls and there's less damage on impact.
Where I'm most picky about weight is my own designs. If I'm selecting the wood, then why pick a heavier piece when a lighter piece will work? It's still a piece of wood and it takes the same time to cut it and glue it.
Where I don't go nuts on weight is with ultra thin sheeting. I've seen guys do that and they're always punching holes through it.
Anyway, adding 2-3 pounds to a .60 size ship may smooth it out but it will also respond slower. A light model may be more affected by gusts but I want the immediate response time to make it stop or to make it do what I want.
On the other hand, I've built models that were so light I couldn't fly them from the field I was using at the time because it couldn't survive ground handling.