I have the same problem.....Me and my friend play and he sees me all the time when he hosts or when i host...my plane always updates to him but his plane always ends up being paused and then freezes....anyone have any idea why? I would think since he is getting updates and I am not to his plane...it is my problem...i am on dsl and he is on cable modem...just seems weird how he gets constant updates on my plane but his to me ends up pausing alot and freezing....wish this could be fixed.