Hello all,
thank you for ALL of the replies and ALL of the great ideas .I will take all of your suggestion and weigh them all out... I will most likely continue with the sim, fly at my field(and others)and yes use a paid instructor... pro or not... I know some of you dont like the idea of using one , but when i feel that i'm not getting enough stick time then i will enlist the services of a paid instuctor.I received some of the best advice that one in my situation could hope for and i thank you all for your input.

I wont be using PI(PAID INSTRUCTOR)all the time-just when i think i need some more intense help (ex. too many crashes on the sim)
or when a new maneuver proves to be too much for me...I will continue to watch this thread and see if any new ideas surface...
thanks again..