Yetti,

I know it's tough when there isn't a local club, but it will really save you a lot of grief, time, and money to learn with an instructor. Even if you have to find someone an hour or two away, you would be better off spending a few flying sessions with an instructor. If you are motivated, and start with a good trainer aircraft, then after a few flying sessions you would at least have a good shot at landing without wrecking your plane, and would have some goals for your continued progress. I have never tried a simulator, but if they are realistic enough, it sounds like a great idea.

Good luck,

banktoturn