Have you considered Electric Trains?

Seriously though, You're just going to have to find some time and a little money to do this right. Get with a local club and talk with some instructors there. You will probably find that at least one is retired and willing to work with you almost at any time you are available within reason. You've seen what your friend is going through and it probably won't be any easier for you no matter what type of plane you get if you try it on your own.
Contact the club. Questions are free.