I don't want to buy a plane that is to hard to fly and crash it and have it in pieces however i don't want one that i will be bored of at the end of the month either.
Unfortunately, I don't think you can have it both ways, at least not cheaply. If the plane is easy to fly then you'll be bored in a month. If it's hard to fly, and you don't have an instructor, it will be in pieces at the end of the month. I don't think this is unique to R/C, it's just that activities that are easy get boring fast.
So, if you're interested in playing with a new toy for a month (and I'm not saying this is a bad thing), go with something like the Firebird XL. At the end of the month, it will be in pieces, but you'll be bored with it anyway. If you're interested in a life-time hobby, then find the local field, figure out if there is somebody to teach you, and if so (and only if so) invest in a .40-sized glow-powered trainer.