RE: Is a flight sim really necessary?
I learned to fly without a sim but I did a lot of practice with a cheap RC (Radio Shack) car to get used to controlling a vehicle from outside the vehicle. I also learned on planes that were much slower than today's normal trainers. A Gentle Lady sailplane and a three channel Sig Kadet Senorita. Learning in "baby steps" meant very little time spent on a buddy cord.