RE: Alpha 40 or Arrow 40?
Either of those planes will do well for you to learn on. But I do think I need to comment on one thing you referenced. Don't count on the "self righting" to save yourself. I see a lot of beginners get burned by that statement. They will think that all they need to do is release the sticks and the plane will instantly pop upright and in level flight. While it's true that EVENTUALLY these planes will return the wings to level flight if they have enough time, in practice they will hit the ground long before they return the plane to level flight. It's really the difference between theory and practice. The best thing to look for in a trainer to "save the plane" is going to be an instructor that will take control of the plane when you get in trouble. Use the club locator on the AMA website to find clubs in the Tulsa area:
[link=http://www.modelaircraft.org/clubsearch.aspx]AMA Chartered Clubs Locator[/link]
Hope this helps
Ken