Clubs have good guys and other guys. Just like life. There are usually guys within a club who like to help beginners. You didn't meet them yet. Call a club officer and ask if there is an instructor in the group.

Multiplex has a RTF training system based on an Elapor foam highwing electric trainer. It is sold in 3 different packages. The RTF option comes with everything for the plane (2 batteries which shows they're thinking) plus a CD "How to Finish and Fly" and a pc Flight simulator program (no idea which one). There is a package that is just the model but with servo, motor and controller installed. Tower sells it for $120. And then for about $65 they sell just the ARF.

It looks to be an option that would fit your needs. Or one of the three might be.

Elapor is hard to mess up. It is repairable. And Multiplex is a fairly smart bunch.

BTW, don't expect to walk onto a club field and find exactly the right person you need to talk to. Most guys who go flying when they can, don't have the time to spend with newbies, and didn't go in hopes of finding someone to spend the day helping. The people who walk up and start asking questions often take lots of time doing just that, asking questions. And the percentage of those walkons who actually show up again is very small.