Hi jon31072000,
I think I was in a similar situation as you to start learning rc plane at 30's, and also experienced unpleasant matter in a local flying club. By that time, I searched the nearby club and went there on the flying date , after watched for a hour seeing them flown different type of rc planes, burning holes in the sky. I was so admired and hope to be one of them.
I talked to a couple of members who were taking a break after the flight , told them I wanted to learn rc model flying. I was then introduced to their training coordinator who is also the owner of a LHS. He was keen to explain what I need to have , such as what plane, equipment , and to arrange a schedule for training etc. But what an abrupt change to him after he knew I had got my own plane and most of the stuff required which I had bought oversea. He refused to get me a instructor by saying that he just found the trainee quota was full.
I knew it is all an excuse because I didn't buy stuffs from him. I was so angry and disappointed and never go to the club again, anyhow, I didn't give up rc flying but decided to learn on myself by electric.
I tried quite a few electric arfs and unsuccessful and got them all smashed until this one......... GWS DHC2 BEAVER, this is the 1st plane I can fly steady in the air for longer than 5 minutes. From the Beaver, I learned the basic skills to fly and even simple aerobatic. It is so easy and steady to fly and I think everyone can handle and I would like to recommend to you if you really want to learn on your own.