This almost became one of "that" crash stories...
Serious - my first flight was very uneventfull. With that ASP .80 FS and 10% nitro, 12% synthetic oil fuel it gets airborne at a few clicks less than half throttle. She needed no trim of whatsoever, but I had it nose-heavy on a first couple of flights.
Today I've made 4 15min flights, and it feels rock-solid. We get to know each other better and better. So far I have 24 flights on mine, and am still very satisified.
I move CG backwards each day we fly a bit. This helps, and the more I move CG back, the more I like it. It's a sweet flying plane, that's for sure.
About ailerons: on low-rate they are not very usefull (I have an electric slow-flyer to do such a lazy eights), high-rate is good, but not excellent. I have the throw as far as it goes (that's 13mm each way), and this feels just right (-35% expo).
To comment your story: personally I think it's better to get to the field ten times to just walk around or taxi the plane due to wind conditions and get the bird home in one piece, than to go to the field "just once, but more than enough". We build them to fly and enjoy, right?
Sašo