I think there is a difference between flying relaxed and flying laxed. When you're relaxed it shows in the smoothness of how you are flying and how you act towards various situation that may arise like a dead stick. When you get laxed in flying, your not paying attention to your plane or what your are doing. You let the plane get a head of you and then panic or do something stupid. This is part of the learning curve and you will soon find your are relaxed while flying, yet paying attention to your surroundings (situational awareness).

Hogflyer