Hey MBUTLER1967,
Hope your meeting with your local r/c members helps. Im sure they will be able to sit down with you and help figure out the radio gear issues, and troubles that seem to be taking place. Even if the drive is a good hour away, id highly recommend it. I know when i first started flying r/c planes i didnt even really understand what a servo did/reciever did, and i surely did not know how to tune the dang engine lol

maybe thats why i like electrics so much
I know many other members would agree with me here and say that once you have that first flight with your instructor, and your flying it (hands shaking, knees shaking, and huge smile from eye to eye[8D] on your face), your view on all of the hard work/"pain in the ass stuff" you had to do will be behind you.
keep us updated on your progress, and good luck!
-David